Being an African in a Millennial World
Have you ever heard of the saying, “don’t give up on your dreams, or your dreams will give up on you?” No? How about the saying, “go confidently in the directions of your dreams and live the life you’ve imagined!” Or even, “don’t follow your dreams, chase them!” Well, all of these sayings are geared towards pushing us to follow our dreams in spite of any challenges we may face. Only thing is, in an African household, if your dreams do not include careers such as becoming lawyers, doctors, nurses, pharmacists, or accountants, then please don’t think of chasing or the following anything! ** Sighhh**
Ever since I decided to follow my passion for blogging, modeling, and simply being in the creative world, my relationship with my father has deteriorated right before my eyes. Insults are spewed at me day after day, we speak less and less, and have even become strangers. I suppose I understand why this is happening. African parents - especially mine - believe that the careers I mentioned above are secure enough for their child. Most of them struggled to come to a country filled with opportunities and they only want the best for their children. But what they've failed to realize is that America is a country filled with opportunities, options, choices, and careers, beyond the African norm, and their children are able to achieve any dream they desire.
You see, I graduated with a bachelor’s degree in political science, with the intention in pursing a law degree. Rather, I now think that it's better for me to say, I graduated with a bachelor’s degree in political science, with the intention of making my father proud. For once, I wanted my father to look at me and tell me that he was proud of me, so I paid for Kaplan classes to take the LSATs. Studied, prayed and took the exam, TWICE!!! And definitely realized that law school was just not for me. Being a lawyer was never my passion. My passion was always in fashion, was always in writing, was always in figuring out how to make an impact in this world, and for me, law wasn’t it. Unfortunately, my decision changed my relationship with my father, and at this point, I’m not sure what’s going to happen. But what I do know, is that I am not going to stop chasing my dreams. I am not going to stop pursuing what I think about everyday, what makes me smile, what makes me anxious in a good way, what keeps me motivated, never! Being an African in a millennial world, means going after anything beyond the African norm and having the faith and confidence in yourself that you will be successful. Simply put, this saying, "no one said it would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it."
Those who are following their heart's desires, don’t give up! Trust me, when you reach success, your parents, your family, the world, will be proud.
I know deep in my heart that one day, my dad will be proud of me, despite what dreams I chase!
Love YOU Live Now, and never give up!